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Below are stories that visitors to this site have chosen to share concerning the experiences that they have had meeting, flirting, and falling in love over the internet. It has been surprising to me to see the wide differences in ages, experiences, and advice left here. I hope that you can benefit from those experiences, because everyone that has been kind enough to share has left a part of themselves here to help you see what they have faced and what you could be facing should you chose to go the route that they did. That's not always easy, as I'm sure you know.
I met my boyfriend on the internet this past Summer. I was bored one day so I went on bored.com, and i found the website teen.matchmaker.com. I created a profile on there, not really expecting to meet anyone, but just out of boredom basically. I hardly ever got mail on there, but one day I checked my mail only to find a huge paragraph letter from a 16 year old guy named Mike who lived about half an hour away from me. He said he read my profile and I seemed really nice, and he asked if we could be friends. I wrote him back and said sure, and we began talking on aol instant message for a few weeks. He was a really nice guy. we would talk for hours on end every night when we both logged on. One day he asked for my phone number. I had talked to people before on the phone that I met in chat rooms and all, but we always seemed to run out of things to talk about, and i really didn't want that to happen with him. I should also explain that i am really shy, even on the phone, and i had never had a boyfriend before him. But i accepted, since i was dying to hear his voice. we talked on the phone for 6 hours when he first called, it was incredible. And since it was Summer and school was out, we continued to talk on the phone everyday for hours. We had so much in common, i was slightly starting to fall for him. finally one day, at the end of June, he asked if we could meet in person. i didn't know what to say, it was a huge risk to take, but i eventually accepted and i somehow convinced my dad to talk to his mom on the phone and ask directions to his house!(to this day our parents still think we met "through a friend")We drove there that Saturday afternoon, i was so nervous when we got there and knocked on his door. When i saw him he smiled at me and he had his dog at his feet on a leash, he was so cute. We had seen few pictures of each other, the only one he had shown me was one where he was only 13 years old, and he looked very different. Now he was 6'3, had glasses, and was really thin. He was so adorable! probably not to most girls, but to me he is the image of an angel. On the car ride back to my house, we talked nonstop. It was like we knew each other our whole lives. We went bike riding the whole day and i showed him around my town. we went out for ice cream and then afterwards, we raced each other up and down the parking garage ramps. when we got to the top, we got off our bikes to rest, and we could see the whole downtown area from up there. that's when he leaned over, said "come here," and gave me my first kiss. It was the sweetest thing I ever saw in my life. After that, we went for dinner and ate it at the park. i told him "i feel so close to you," and he said "i feel close to you too." We've been together ever since then, 7 months now, and i love him just as much. I don't have many friends, and neither does he; we're each other's best friend. We believe that fate brought us together. I just happened to be on www.bored.com one day and who was to know who i would end up meeting. without the internet, i would never have met him. We only get to see each other one day a week because of the distance and as of now, neither of us has a car, so it can be hard. We talk on the phone atleast every other day though and we have great communication and that is what matters most, and that is why i think the internet is a great place to meet someone. you can get to know somebody on the inside, and that's what's most important. I would highly recommend online dating.*Amanda* this is a story concerning a family member of mine.. she had been talking to this man for about 4 or 5 months last year..they talked every day sometimes more then once a day...she lives in the states and he is from Egypt but I think at the time he was in Saudia Arabia when they were talking..anyways, she loved him very much..and he claimed to love her too..(but I had my doubts)..she would call him once a week, sometimes twice..but he never called her...but would still profess to love her... she bought him some gifts once and sent them over to him, but he never gave her his address, he gave his address to where he worked instead.. he never sent her anything..but he continued on telling her he loved her so much..I tried to tell her he was only using her, but she was so hard headed she wouldnt listen... she is a very pretty girl, I dont know why he did her like that..he dissappeared from her in august.. he supposedly went back to egypt to visit his relatives and he never contacted her no more.... she left him e-mails all the time and found him on the net a couple of times and talked to him but he never spoke back to her.. he hurt her so bad.... after all that time she invested with him..it was such a let down for her..she still isnt over it..he chatted with her for hrs at a time... and would leave her messages that would really make a person beleive that he really cared for her..... so my advice for people getting involved on the net,,is dont do it!!!..maybe some people get lucky and really find someone good for them on the net ..but its far and in between..... even if you think u know this person..they can be decieving...,,this girl and guy even chatted for hrs over the camera every day for 4 0r 5 months, he even got close with her children so he really hurt the whole family...so be careful on the net.. I met this amazing guy online about a year ago. I went into a chat room, just to chat, like always and found my true love. I had just gotten over a relationship with someone else that was also an online love, so I was feeling pretty glum. This guy, that I met one night, had something appealing to him but I just couldn't put my finger on it. Still, today, he makes me feel the same way. We've gotten to know each other very well. He's called me on the phone and we are planning to meet in March. He's made me the happiest woman and I know that when we meet, I will be very happy with him. I've talked to his cousin, his aunt, and some of his friends. He is not a liar, because they have told me so much about him. People, just be careful about who you get involved with. Find out as much as you can about the person. Have fun! Well 6 months ago, I was really really bored and I just went to this chat room for the heck of it and I really wanted to see what are those people talking about in the chat rooms. Well I just happen to look at people's profiles for their pictures and stuff, but I didn't have the intention of talking to someone at all. Then, this guy IMed me and we started talking. At first he seemed so boring to be honest, and we like used to argue all the time we talked. We would argue all the time for no reason and it's all because he kinda seemed boring to me. But I guess I didn't really know his personality until recently. We hadn't talked in like a month cause we were mad at each other for I don't really remember what. But he started talking to me one night when I got online, and you know I decided to be nicer to him and really get to know him because we had known each other for a while and I was always acting like a jerk towards him. Anyways, that night we started talking and I appologized to him for everything I had done to him, and also we talked about every single thing that came up on our minds and we found out that we really really had many things in common. Ever since we were talking online every single night. Then we decided to meet because we knew so much about each other but we just had to really meet in person. I was really excited and I could have sworn that he was more excited than I was. We went out and we had a great day, and he told me that it wasn't a date right? Well on the end of the "date" he gave me a kiss on the forehead and I went home. Then we talked again and again online and we saw each other so many times after that, and right now we are together and we feel like we are the happiest couple in the entire world. He loves me with his whole heart and so do I, and I still can't believe that after everything that we went through, we are together now and we couldn't have been happier to be honest. He is exactly the guy that I was looking for, and when I look at him, it's like I am looking at my reflection only that he is a male of course. We have made so many plans for the future and we are the happiest couple ever. I am not suggesting to anybody to get involved with people from the net, because you have to be extra careful for those kinds of things. I guess I was lucky to meet him and maybe you'll find that special person for yourself, too. There is always hope!!!! Well where does one begin?I suppose I should give a bit of background as to where this all really started.I am a member of an online community known as GameFAQs,or more specifically an area of GFAQs known as the Couch,a message board.I post there frequently along with several others.I posted everything that was really happening in my life.Back in about March I was diagnosed with panic disorder,which was really ****ing up my life.I became severely depressed.
I shared this information on the messageboard.One day I got to the point where I felt I could not take it anymore and decided I was going to take my life by overdosing on my medication.That same day I recieved an instant message from one of the people who posted at the board.She came to express her sympathy for the loss of my dog which she found out about from the board.I was shocked.I thought,"Why does this girl even care about my problems?"I told her I appreciated her condolences and decided I'd go ahead and talk to her a bit and then go and end my life.But I got to talking to her and jokingly asked her to "cyber-marry" me(a common practice among the folks at the messageboard.)To my suprise she went along with it!Well,I figured I'd go ahead and keep myself...I don't know why really...but I felt that me meeting this girl must of happened for SOME reason.
The next few weeks after that I talked to her,and talked to her,AND TALKED TO HER.Soon what initially was just for fun became serious.I realized I was starting to fall for this girl.I knew she liked me ALOT but I figured that was as far as her interest went.I couldn't deal with that so I wrote her a long Email expressing how I felt,prepared for rejection.I waited all day to talk to her,waiting for her response.IWhen she finally did get on what she told me changed my whole life.She told me she felt the same way I do!I was so happy!We agreed that we would take this relationship into the real world.Only problem was...she lives is England,I live in Missouri,bad combination no?
Well I decided that I would somehow take a trip to England my Senior year without my mother finding out my plan.Well...things started getting pretty weird...me constantly trying to hide this invisible girl from everyone.I decided it was time to tell someone about her,so I told my best friend.He told me he was okay with it and wished me luck.Well after seeing my friend's reaction I thought I'd take my chances with my mom.I told her...and she reacted SOOOOO well to it.From that point on things got much easier.
Since that time I have made the decision to move to England after I graduate to be with her.In the meantime I converse with her through Voice chat and Instant Messaging.We have been together 3 months now and our love grows stronger everyday.She is a beautiful person both on the inside and the outside.Although sometimes things seem hard I know in my heart we will be together.It just goes to show you...love knows no distance...
Ok here is my story, I met a cool guy in a chat room on cool site.
ok we started to like hit it off.And started chating thru yahoo messenger.We talked all day long.We were about the same age.I thought ok maybe hes real.Cuz u know how some people on line you can' trust.You hear alot negative about on line and meeting ppl from on line.So I thought ok maybe hes really agood guy.He lived a couple states away.Ok well he described himself so cute.Like hazel light eyes awesome body and had a great attitude and job.I 'm thinking yeah right like someone this fine is on line.well the only think that bugged me he wont give his number out and always avoided talking by phone.I really wante dto hear
this man i thought i really liked.He had a younger son that stayed w/him and always talked about him.He seams really sweet.But it bugged me how he wouldn't give out his #.So I don't know..I think maybe I'm better off looking for some one off line.I didn't expect to like anyone on here as much.But hey he still wants to meet me..I' dont know If I should still..proably wont ..I really have no clue of meeting any 1 offline.well all I have to say just be open and truthful about yourself and never lie.If u do meet just make sure he's who he says he is. Well, I met a guy in an online chat room, I talked to many guys on line before, but this one was diffrent.I never liked someone on line a smuch as I do him.From what I know about him hes attractive,smarty,funny,loves his daughter,and has an amazing personality.He is also faoinly orenited.He has goals for the future and attends college.He seams like the perfect man.He and I chated for many hours a night and day.I love talking to him.We talked about 2-3 weeks now, but it seams longer because we our on all day talking almost.The only thing is he avoids talking on phone yet, at first I must admit I was mad and hurt,But I understand maybe he's shy or not ready.I like him alot.We our spos to meet like Christams Holiday.Problem is people say you know you shouldn't..He could be a older man or some creepy physco.And that's waht gets me..I feel he's ok and all I shared my life story with this guy.But..in my heart I wanna be with him sooner.So I'm going to wait and remain just online pals.He tells me about the dates he goe son..Because I told him he can't wait for me forever..and besided if it's meant to be it will be.I quess I'll have to patient and time will tell...
My message to any online who wants to meet..Being cautious and not just listen to your heart ,,but your mind to.and wait a slong as possible to you trust hin/her completly.and know this if love is meant to happen..no time will sperate it from happening..just stay friends and and see what happens..for me I hope hes legit and honest, I don't know It's just words on my screen.But you never know where love may find you..Just be careful and aware trust your heart and mind. On Boxing day of of 1999, I received an instant message from MDB through the ICQ network. It was that day that started the rest of my life. With the first,"Hi, I'm interesting", it started a whirlwind of activity, feelings and emotions that one can only imagine. He lived in British Columbia, Canada and I in Ontario at the time. In Jan of 2000, he went to Ontario to meet me for the frist time. From that time on, it was love at first sight and we
instantly clicked. We talked every single night from the beginning to January to May of 2000 when I decided to move to BC to be with him.
Knowing this was going to be a very big risk, it was one that we were both willing to take. We had both in been serious relationships, he a past marriage and I in a past engagement.
It is absolutely true that when you are not looking for anything to happen that is when love hits you over the head with such a great force. He and I have been together for over a year a half now and our lives have become one. While we lived apart, and we got together twice during five months, we felt an unbelievable connection. We talked for hours face to face just the same as we did on the phone or over the computer. And today, our relationship is strong because we had that opportunity to trust each others words before actions.
To all of you who are debating the issue of online dating, I saw use caution, we both did and in the end if it was meant to be then it will be. Good luck to all.
I always thought you could never find someone on the internet...until I did...I was bored one night...so I decided to look through the aol personals...and a buddy of mine told me he had one up..I was thinking how I would never put one up...It seemed so desperate....so I go rooting through...I came to a couple I thought were kinda cute...I emailed them...I got responses from all of them (4)... I only talked to 2 of them.. They both wanted to meet...I was kinda shy..but was like "What the heck" it will be an experience... so I met one of them at a restaurant...and all I have to say is that we are together now...and we are already talking of marriage....He makes me so happy...and he happened to only live but 10 miles away... I can definatley reccommend trying the aol personals...
My Story:Red Socks
KKP
“ Beware of turquoise belts and turquoise socks,” Linda warned as we
parted company. How funny, I mused. You see I had a date with an
Internet obtained male friend of many months that very night. He had
even chosen my city, New Orleans, as his vacation spot just so he could meet me, the widowkk@aol.com. Turquoise socks indeed! That Linda could be such a comedienne.
Well, time to get all gussied up for zee hot date. Lets see...nails
polished, legs shaved and tan, khaki shorts ironed, new cute white Liz
Claiborne T-shirt tucked in, white leather sandals on pedicured feet,
gold hoops in ears, new pinkish pearl ring with tiny diamonds on slender finger, chin length highlighted hair in place, classic makeup job. All set and ready to knock him dead!
Destination: The Royal Sonesta Hotel on historic Bourbon Street in the heart of the French Quarter of Old New Orleans. Armed with flowers and a Scrabble game, I park my car in the garage. I adjust my lipstick,brush my locks, neaten my attire. I enter the lobby, find the elevator,punch in floor 3, and I am on my way! I am finally meeting my defense attorney friend who works out with weights twice weekly, eats healthy, has money, and is a woman's man for sure! My kind of guy!
Hard to find the room. What gives, I wonder. Oh, there it is. French
doors, glass panes. I peer in. Dark in there. Hard to see anything
distinct. I see someone laying on the couch. I do see 2 red socks...
Red socks???I prance on in to be greeted by a 350 year old little fat troll. He wears the red socks. “Hi KK”,I hear. Oh, Lord, please tell me this is not really happening. It is. Summoning strength from my inner vault, I graciously say,”Hello.” My momma taught me well. I am utterly appalled and not in the least bit stymied. I am a big bit stymied! This is not the man in the picture I had at home unless that picture had been taken one magic day 30 decades prior. I demurely accept a seat and proffer my gifts. I receive no “thank you" response. The daughter appears. She is cute and well taken care of, She is blonde and 32. We hit it off.
Meanwhile, my prince sits by me. He looks at my pretty pearl ring, I let him hold it. He sticks it on his tongue to test it to see if it is real. I am wondering if this scenario is real.
We have plans to go to dinner. My date puts on a new plaid shirt; leaves on the baggy ass jeans. Ringgggg...The phone. My son John. Wants to join us for dinner. He gets invited. We wait for John. They start planning the mile longggg weekend. I am included in the festivities. I keep my trap shut. My son arrives. He immediately sizes up the deal. We do our silent communication. I will give him my entire life's savings if he will help me. He will. Not to worry.
We hit the streets; my loverboy on my left. He cannot hear out of his left ear.He links arms with me. I manage to subtly unlink. On we go. I feel the urge to throw myself in the arms of a black musician on the street
corner. I control myself, barely.
We settle on a restaurant. It is a nice one. We sit. He sits before I do. I expect this by now. Where is that
wonderful mannerly man I dated a few weeks ago? The one from middle Louisiana? I make a mental note to tell him I am game for another date sometime. How about now? Oh well. Three beers for them. Coke for me. I don't drink anymore. Too bad. Loverboy extracts a red bandanna which has seen better days and blows his nose. He scratches his left armpit. I am not hungry.Hmm...Well, maybe I will lose a pound tonight. Dinner ends. He pays the bill. We walk back to Bourbon Street. My savior John leaves us. I am on my own now. My date says he is tired. The daughter says she wants to walk in the Quarter some more. I volunteer to accompany her. I show her raunchy Bourbon Street scenes. They are mundane to
me. Women showing their breasts for beads thrown by drunk bar patrons on balconies, a pack of transvestites, the usual... We wear out. I feel ill. We
head back to their hotel.
I see my Prince Charming back at the hotel, and say it is time for this
Cinderella to go home. I make sure I have both of my shoes so he wont hunt for me tomorrow. I ask him if I was what he had expected. He says,“Yes, you are as lovely as your picture.” I feel terrible, guilty,ashamed, and so forth. He does not ask me the same question. He knows he has deceived me. At the car he hugs me. I give him a cheek peck and thank him for the dinner. I get into my car. It is quiet and dark in there.I am gratefully alone. I drive home feeling strangely free, missing my deceased gentleman of a husband, and wondering how in the holy hell I could have been so totally duped.
The next morning I awaken with the dread of the dreaded phone call
summoning me to play again. I cant. I wont. I find I really do have a horrible cold. The phone does ring, and I bow out of the festivities. I bow out the next day as well. I am in turmoil. At heart I am kind. I am getting mentally and physically sicker as the weekend marches on. I finally decide to do nothing. This has become God's department now.
Some things are not meant to be. Even perceptive geniuses like me can occasionally be hoodwinked. I vow to only agree to have one tiny
demitasse of coffee with any future path crossers of the male gender.
And also NO RED SOCKS!
The End, Thank God
Author's note: After the writing of this saga, I did make a stab, albeit primitive, at a form of amends.
Authors second note: Two years later and it happened to me again. Just see a man for one event, one evening or whatever, even if he is flying from Brazil or the Faulklands---ONE DATE only is now my true rule of thumb. That way no one is decimated by rejection and expectations are not blown out of proportion. You are later free to have a repeat or not.
I had just gotten over an abusive relationship a year before. He was just to get over this girl who he thought he really loved. I was in a chat room one day just talking to different people trying to waste time. He instant messaged me and we began to talk.
It was a Thursday when we began to talk about a certain subject. He told me he was trying to get back together with this girl he thought was his true love. I began to tell him about my abusive relationship and he told me that he felt sorry for me. I had gone on a blind date that night with some guy my friends fixed me up with. I was also talking to someone else but this one guy online really had my attention.
Those two guys i was seeing turned out to be nothing. I didn't want to go out with someone and relize i had made a mistake. I had begun to have strong feelings for this guy online and I didn't want to ruin my chance with him by going out with anyone else. We decided to take the next step with talking on the phone. He had called me one night after work just to talk and hear my voice. His voice was very relaxing and gave me a sense of comfort. He had told me the same about mine. We stayed on the phone for two hours just talking about eachother.
I had met a couple of people online before him and he had done the same. Once night when we were talking on the phone he brought up the question of meeting. I was a little scared because the other people I met didn't mean anything to me and this guy did, but I said yes! . Neither of us had a digital camera or a scanner so we couldn't give each other a picture of ourselves. Since he knew my parents from work I had a brief description of what he looked like, but I was still a little sceptible about meeting him and if i would be attracted to him.
We decided to go out to a movie the first night we met.It was 8:00 when he knocked at my door. I answered the door and saw this really tall guy standing in front of me. He wasn't the kind of guy I usually dated. I usually went for the bad boy time but this guy was a nice dressed guy. He had told me that I looked great and I knew there was something special about him. On the way over to the movies we talked a little bit but not much. I was extremely nervous and I could tell he was too. We got to the movies and he opened the car door for me and he even opened the the door to the movie theater. Once again I was impressed by his actions. Once we sat down the nervousness diminished greatly. We talked about work, our families, friends and relized we had a lot in common. After the movie he drove me home since he work in the morning. The next day we talked on the phone and he said he had a great time and wanted to see me again. I said yes!
A week later we went out on our second date. This time we went over to his place and watched a movie. In the middle of the movie he leaned over and gave me a kiss. From that moment on I knew he was the one for me.
That was seven months ago and we are still going strong. I've fallen in love with him and he has done the same with me. We have a strong bond with each other and if it wasn't for the computer we might of never met! Wow where to begin...umm I hadn't had the internet very long at all, a few months maybe. I got bored one night on AIM and decided to see if I could find anyone with the same interests as me...so I looked under football and I found someone from my city that had that interest, so I decided to IM him. Turns out that we went to rival high schools and we didn't have much to talk about at first. I had a website so he had seen pictures of me, but he didn't have a scanner or anything so I hadn't seen him yet. Actually, he was away at college, which is about 2 hours from where we are from. I have a friend who went to the same high school he did, so I checked him out with her and it turns out that he used to date her cousin and she said he was actually decent and normal enough. So we started to talk more and found out that we did have stuff in common. We talked every night and finally he found a friend of his at college to take a pic of him on his webcam and send it to me. I wasn't impressed at first...he was good looking but didn't really seem my type. Anyway, after talking online for over a month he said that he would be coming home for a week over break and wanted to know if I would want to meet him. Reassurances from my friend finally convinced me to do so. We didn't meet alone though, one of his friends and their girlfriend came along as well. I drove separately and we met at a public place for dinner then went to see a movie (where we were joined by 2 of my friends). Things went well and we continued to talk and every time he came home we went out on a date. Not long after we were officially a couple. It's been almost 9 months now and we are happy as can be. He is still at college but I go down and visit him often and he comes home often, so it works out great. I honestly think I have found the "One" and it is thanks to the internet. Just be careful and get to know who you are talking to. It really helps when you know somebody who can verify what that person is saying. I was feeling very vulnerable at the time with my husband and I not getting along and found myself getting addicted to the internet something I thought happened to other people and certainly not myself, ya right! well here's my story:
I was in a chat room and saw a womans nic and a mans nic and saw that this man was not very interested in her and she was almost the point of making a fool of herself for his attention. I decided to rescue him,(Big mistake) he seemed polite, my age, good job, lived in a ideal area {on the west coast} he looked awfully good to me even though I wasn't really looking for a man at the time I was just lonely and again vulnerable I ask him if hed like to trade pics with me and he said yes. we instantly clicked and to my surprise fell in love within hours of chatting and the chemisty was amazing, we were attracted to each other (from the picures we exchanged) he was very attractive, amazingly charming and romantic and never talked indecent or discusting or dirty he was constantly telling me all the things any woman would want to hear he was truly the most charming romantic man I had ever met. well he pushed meeting me in person less than a month later,
we met and it was even better in person.Magical in every way possible. The days following were the most happiest times I have had in my life.
I lived in las vegas at the time so you can imagine the romantic nites we shared in each othes arms, on top of the stratosphere and all the glitter he told me he'd never leave me he loved me and we would soon be married even telling me if I was divorced we would have gotten married right then and there in Las Vegas, then towards the end of his stay he told me he had something to tell me and confessed he had a felony my heart sank as I listened to him with intent and being so in love at the time trying to be compassionate and understanding ..well this is the big one! He then confessed he was a Convicted child molester OMG! to my horror here I am sitting there with the supposed man of my dreams handsome, rich adoring, tender, affectionate, attentive, everything I could ever want in a man .ready to leave my husband and everything I was totally devistated but didn't know what to do because I was already in love with him.I have 3 children one little girl 3 at the time and he knew I had children too and still pursued me. oh sure he assured me of his inocence of the crime but I had stuggled and was devastated with this and also his deceit and lies and yes there were lies I know I should hate him but I try not to harbor such hate in my heart but its hard to this day not too . sorry this is such a long story theres certainly more to it but you get the picture and dont need a book LOL the hurt I still suffer over this man and what he had done to my family myself is devistating im telling my story so other woman may be spared and also it helps to talk about it and I hope someone out there can give me some input and share some of their stories with me. By the way even after over 2 years this man and i still talk on the phone but of course I can't and won't put my children in jeapardy and be with him . to this day im still hurt over this and im sure theres people out there reading this thinking how stupid I am for falling like this but its not like I wen't into a room called convicted child molesters seeking woman with children welcome!( a little humor there) I consider myself and my children even though he didn't hurt us psyically victems Truly Sherry In March of this year i finally got a computer. I decided to go on line and chat. I wasnt looking for love, just to chat with people to make more friends. I frequented a room called friendly chatters. The hosts were really nice concidering i was a novice to the computer and all you could do in chat. while i was on one night I met Ox. He got kicked out of the room a few times but kept coming in because i wanted to get to know him. thank god he did. He lives in Melbourne and I live in the USA. We chatted in the room almost every night and exchanged e-mails and then phone numbers. His accent was like spun gold. we shared everything about ourselves and what beliefs we had and where we want to go from here. We found ourselves deeply in love. Both for the first time. We have so many things in common it was unreal. Our love for one another grew stronger with every chat. After 7 months he came here to visit. It was wonderful and our love is so very intense. Saying bye at the end of his visit was the hardest thing we had to do. He left 2 weeks ago. And it still pulls at my heart. I am going to Aussie to visit him as soon as i get the money to do so. I cant wait to see him again. our relationship is stronger than ever. I had never felt love before i met him. And i believe in love for the first time in my life. we have discussed who would move where and i will be moving to Australia.
My advise to all is love exhisits. It finds you when you arent looking and when your heart needs it the most. And above all --HAVE FAITH...where theres a will theres a way. Well, it was Oct-Nov '99 when i met a person online that was going to be far more important to me than i realised. I had only been online a coupld of months and the idea of cyber dating had never even entered my mind. I certainly didnt go looking for any kind of online relationship and i think that may be part of the reason why we have been so successful to date. Except for one small problem - we live on opposite sides of the world, and havent been able to meet yet. The phone bills have become huge and the whole thing is getting really quite out of control. After knowing each other for nearly 2 and half years it is so frustrating that we cannot touch or hold each other. It really hurts sometimes. I am most definitely NOT an advocate on online relationships. I think they are really quite insane. But i didnt ask for what happened - it just did. I dont know, sometimes i feel like giving up, but realistically i know that we could never forget each other, and the only way we will either end this relationship, or bring it to a real life level, is by meeting. Love may be hard in real life, but its even harder online. My one piece of advice is, if you find someone you like, and would like to meet, as well as all the usual precautions - try to meet them early on. Allowing feelings to develop over 3 months, or 3 years is just going to lead to bigger diappointments and broken hearts than if you meet your 'perfect cyber match' a month or two after your meeting online. Well, in a perfect world this would be possible, but in my case... i still have another year or so before i can travel to the other side of the ridiculously large earth... Here's hoping things work out... After being in love for more than 2 years, it will be the biggest disappointment of my life if it doesnt. I was bored one day and I decided to go in a chatroom on MSN. I entered and then I saw a message that a guy sent out. It said...17/M/Australia here...whisper me if yah wanna chat. And he put a smiley at the end of his message. I thought, well he seems pretty nice. So, I whispered him. I told him hi and he said hi back. We started chatting and getting to know each other. After we talk for about 30 minutes, we exchanged e-mails. We both had MSN Messenger so I added him to my buddy list. I asked him if he wuz single, and he said yes. And I told him that I wuz single too. And we hit it off pretty well after that. I wuz thinking, man I really like this guy! But I had no idea what his feelings were for me since we had just met. Later on, he sent me a picture of himself. When I received it, I thought...wow, this guy is really good looking, and he wuz. I didn't have a picture of myself at that time, but he said he didn't care what I looked like. That just really turned me on because guyz usually go 4 looks. Well, we talked like every day and I began 2 really really like him. Finally, he admitted that he really liked me too. I wuz just so glad. He gave me his phone number and I called him like 8 times...considering the fact that he lives in Australia, and I live in the U.S., I couldn't talk 2 him for long. But he understood that. After awile, I finally got some pics of me scanned in. He wuz very excited. I sent them 2 him and he wuz like wow, you are really hot...and I told him thanx and he said you're welcome. I wuz like this guy is so sweet, not just because he thinks i'm pretty, but because his personality wuz amazing. We hit it off and everything, and I told him that I would be going 2 Australia in like 5 months and he wuz so happy. I am planning on going meet him, cuz I know he's not lying about himself...and hopefully when I do meet him we will spend a lot of time 2gether! My advice is that if you think you love someone, then go for it! But just be careful...make sure you know that person really well. I was on the rebound from a romance with someone I had met on an internet dating service that became a nightmare after 4 1/2 months. I was browsing a new online dating service and came across a profile that really intrigued me and although this man lived 2500 miles away I decided to take the chance and send him an e-mail. Much to my surprise he e-mailed me back. We e-mailed back and forth and chatted through the daying site for about two weeks and he asked for my telephone number so with a little hesitation I gave it to him. We talked on the phone for no less than 4 hours each time and it was wonderful. He sent me an e-mail telling me that I was everything he wanted in a woman and was falling in love with me. Being a romantic....my heart soared...I knew after the second or third telephone conversation with him I was falling hard for him. We sent each other pictures of family our homes etc and shared many intimate details of our lives. Then as quick as he came into my life he started to disappear. I would see him on line and yet he would not chat at all. His calls stopped and so did his e-mails. I was crushed. We had even made plans of me going to his home town theis coming March for our first meeting and I was so comitted to making this work if things were meant to be, that I was willing to relocate to his state....I am from Canada so it was a very major move for me. I cried for days as reality hit that this man was playing games with my heart and emotions....I needed to have closure so I decided to shut him out completely so I have ended all contact online. I feel that if it is meant to be and he is my soul mate and he truly cares for me the way he said he did he will use my phone number to contact me....I do not hold any hope that he will but....I have had serious thoughts of getting out of/off of the internet because my heart cannot take anymore disappointments. I have been told I am too trusting and too compassionate and that is one of the reasons I get hurt....if anyone has any suggestions for me or good sound advice I would really look forward to some input .... Thanks My introduction to online chatting became the best experience of my life. I've made friends, moved across the country, and met the man of my dreams. When i 1st got a computer my friend told me to download AIM and before i knew it i was talking to a bunch of people. One day i received a random IM and at the time never would of thought how far it would take me. We talked for a few months, shared each others pictures and decided to call each other. That went on for about 6 months and it was time to meet.... So i flew, against my parents will, from NY to CO to see this guy i had fallen in love with on the internet. Of course i brought a friend for safety... always have to be safe! Anyway, the second i saw him in the airport i was pleased!! He took me to his house, were we cuddled all night... and we are still cuddling with each other 2 years later. I have moved to NM to be with him and attend college. We plan to marry after college (have exact date, March 11th 2004) and maybe have a kid. I'm so happy that i got a computer and found my love... i'd recommend to make friends online and possibly more. But remember to always be safe, cause not everyone is as sweet as my baby, there are wierdos out there. Well, First off I want to say that you are not a freak if you date someone online. The whole reason I dated someone online was because he made me feel good about myself. And of course that was what I wanted from a guy. It was the summer of '99 and I had just gotten my computer. It was a birthday present. I had turned 15. I loved the internet and I got into chatting with tons of people. I loved that I could flirt with guys and they would never know what I looked like and If I didn't like them I never had to talk to them again. One day I was talking to this guy from England who was 19. Much too old for me in my opinion. He called me Ma'am which hit me as really weird and so we started talking EVERYDAY as soon as I got home from school. I started to like him a lot and I was wondering what he thought about me. It got to the point where we were best friends.. and I found myself with a huge crush on him. As the end of the year approached, the threat of the lose of computers and internet drove me to tell him how I felt. So two days before New Year's Eve we talked and I told him that I had a huge crush on him. He told me that he felt the same way and wasn't sure what he was going to do if we couldn't reach each other. We both vowed to keep the same emails just so we could keep in touch. Both of us were much to scared to hand over our addresses or anything of the sort. Well, New Year's came and went and Nothing happened. So we started Cyber-dating soon after that. We lasted for about six months and then I realized that it wasn't what I wanted to do with my life. I could do better, and he told me that all the time. So we broke up. Both of us loved each other. We still love each other to this day and we talk about once a week, BUT we weren't IN love with each other. At this moment in time I'm having an awesome time with my real boyfriend who my ex-cyber-boyfriend told me I should ask out. So I did and we've been together for almost a year and a half now. You learn lots of things out of cyber-relationships, but you miss the one-on-one stuff and the affection as well as a lot of the emotions. As long as you stay safe, and you know a lot about the person you're talking about you'll be okay. I'm taking a chance and meeting my ex-cyberboyfriend this summer coming up. He's moving over here for good about two states away. We've become good friends and so it will be fun for both of us. NO matter what the internet can help you feel more assured of yourself and you can make great friends doing it.
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