The Good Things

     Dating over the internet does have many advantages over what most consider the "real life" relationship. It can be very cheap. It offers you the chance to get to know someone without the physical pressure. You get a better gauge of a person's intellect, as you can see what they write, how they write, and how well they can communicate. When you date online <and this is also a con>, for the first bit of time until you decide to meet, all that you CAN do is talk to each other.

     You get the chance to learn how to communicate with each other first, instead of later when problems crop up. It is easier to talk to someone about the things that might embarrass you if you were to sit across the table from them; in that sense, it facilitates openness.

     My husband and I firmly believe that the reason that we communicate so well is because of the way we met. We began learn to share our secrets with each other over the net because we didn't have to face that same fear of rejection, and carrying that openness over into the "real world" made it so much easier than it would have been. Otherwise, it would have taken us years to learn to talk the way we do.

Internet Dating -The Bad Things

All you have to go on in the beginning is who the other person says they are, and that may involve a good deal of blind trust. Just because someone tells you that they aren't married doesn't mean it's true, and just because they talk like a doctor doesn't mean that they have a degree.

While you are free from the burdens of the physicality of a person in the beginning, you might also find yourself emotionally attached to a person before you realize that you can't stand the physical sight of them. Can you imagine talking to someone for months before finding out that he or she is really a precocious 12 year old? Or that your dream date left out the part about bad teeth and the six kids?

You are faced with, when you cyber date, of having to a lot more research on a person that you might if it was, for instance, someone that you met at church, work, school, or even the laundromat. You can't ask their friends about them, and you would probably have a very hard time finding anyone that even knows this person.

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