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Below are stories that visitors to this site have chosen to share concerning the experiences that they have had meeting, flirting, and falling in love over the internet. It has been surprising to me to see the wide differences in ages, experiences, and advice left here. I hope that you can benefit from those experiences, because everyone that has been kind enough to share has left a part of themselves here to help you see what they have faced and what you could be facing should you chose to go the route that they did. That's not always easy, as I'm sure you know.
StoryI met my now husband in a chat room, when I was 17 & 1/2. We chatted and got to know each other and swapped e-mails on line all the time... He became a really good friend, 3 Months after meeting him on the Internet and having a phone relationship we met, he came down and visited me for a holiday (we Live in New Zealand so its not that far away from each other!) three months after that on New Years eve we were engaged. We continued to be engaged for 2 years because of the long distance thing. On the 15 Jan this year we were married.
43 No No StoryJerry the Webmaster was someone I had worked with years ago. After he was transferred elsewhere, he occasionally would either call me or send a letter/Christmas card during the past 11 years. I had not heard from him in a while and sent him an e-mail this past Christmas. He responded with surprise and started e-mailing me everyday. In turn, I responded since I was intrigued with his "charm and concern" for me. To make a long story short, he was in a relationship with a woman as well as having numerous on-line relationships. I felt humiliated, foolish, and betrayed! I ended the e-mail relationship. I thought that since I knew the person (he wasn't a stranger) that I would be safe! Boy, was I wrong! If a person that one knows can deceive you over the internet, a stranger can do the same thing! That experience was my first and last experience with online dating!
StoryLast October I downloaded Buddyphone off of icq.. The first person that I talked to were brothers from Holland (Nederlands). Rico was very fluent in English and from there on we have spoken. At the end of this last winter I bought a web cam and was able to see him for the first time. Since then we have seen each other on Net meeting almost every night, spoken a lot on the phone and also exchanged cards, letters and gifts. Even though we have never met I know that he is my soulmate and cares a lot. Never imagined I would find someone who is so caring, lovable, honest, sweet, funny and a great friend who is there for me. I am planning on going over seas in 2001 and making my dreams come true. I do really believe that the internet can be a dangerous place if you don't be careful and never imagined I would find anyone like him especially on the internet. But I also do believe that fate holds a big part of your life and things happen for a reason! To anyone reading this, love comes in all forms be it meeting socially to meeting someone on the internet and if it happens to be on the internet then you can get a good idea of the person if you type, talk and communicate with them for a long time.
For me, cyberdating has been great and has brought out feelings that I never knew I had.
StoryWell, in january I went to a chat room, it had been a while since I chatted. I usually found it boring, and I ended up talking to this guy from New Zealand, he was really funny, and at first was making up a whole bunch of stuff, he was like a joker of the chat, but after about 30 minutes he said he liked me, and told me the truth :) Well we both got msn messenger that night, and have chatted since, after about 3 mths, we realized we loved each other very much, it was so incredible. Now we have been talking 6 months, and plan to meet in december, its been a long hard road, don't ever think its easy having a relationship on the net.
StoryWell after several years of being online and I am talking all the way back to using a shell account. I have met many people over the years. Sometimes they were ok and sometimes they didn't work out at all and sometimes they were just flat out lies. I originally met someone in a chat room and he would feed me alot of silly lies but he "parked" me in a perfectly respectable chatroom where I made many nice online friends and visited with all over the US. There were two fellows from England and I have known them almost three or more years now. They were friends in the UK and one came to visit me every year and I took him to disney and universal, etc. He is like a brother to me. I finally decided to go to the UK to visit both guys. Well to make a long story short, I had a magical trip to London and the friend that I hadn't met face to face have fallen deeply in love and I have known him for over three years, online and on the phone. He didn't want me to leave England without telling me how he felt and has asked me to marry him. I don't know how it will all work out logistically, but I am quite happy and the future is bright. I can honestly say though dating online is a mixed bag. I have had some pretty awful experiences and I am a pretty cynical person. I figured that most men are just out for one thing and I am prepared for that to just say no. In my friend's case he was not like that at all and such a gentleman, he calls me 3 times a day from there and I am planning a fun wedding here in the US. So it may not work the first or even the second time but there is someone out there for everyone. The main thing is just to be honest and if something doesn't seem right, it probably isn't. Trust your instincts and never think that you are stuck with just one person that you are having misgivings about. I actually have another online relationship that seems to be going nowhere, and I will have to deal with that in the face of planning my new life. Yeah in a way I am deceiving him right now but I don't know what is going to happen, it is just that that particular relationship is not going anywhere, I visited him and he was pleasant but he has not made any effort to call or anything, the visit was rather disappointing but he is a nice man as well. I do not see him ever leaving where he lives, ever. I do see myself being happy with my love somewhere in the world. And how knows???
Storywell i wish that i could say that my story is as happy as some of the others, but its not. About 6 months ago i met this boy through a mutual friend. He was great... everything that i wanted in a guy. So we started to talk alot (sometimes till wee morning hours) and we exchanged #'s too. I thought that he was 'the one' for me. We even talked about marriage later on in life. Well we 'dated' for 4 months and then one day... he broke it off, just like that. He lied and told me that he just couldn't take the distance anymore. When really he was falling in love with someone else. I gave this man my heart and soul.. and he ripped them up.So my advice is to watch out about online relationships.. they can be a GREAT experience but you don't want to get hurt either. But if someone else comes along.. i may try it again.. who knows, you can find true love anywhere!
StoryHello to those who have thought about being involved in this kind of a relationship. From my experience it is worse than the normal dating thing , because of the way i feel right now , which is confused , stressed , and most of all uncertain. In the begining everything went well, but now that the relationship has progressed further , i feel that i cannot continue to be dragged along in it any longer. So if you will please consider the best and only advice i have to give you . That is to think about how the discicion's you make can change your life considerably, and after that they are not ireversible.
StoryWhen I was fourteen (I'm sixteen now) I met an extremely irritating fifteen-year old on a debate forum. I must admit, I am addicted to a good debate- but this boy was a _fanatic_. Eventually, after a month or so of very heated debate, I Instant Messaged him to apologize for a rather impolite comment I made. From his e-mails, I had expected a rather formal, stiff personality, but to my surprise he was polite, humorous in an odd may (like me) and quite playful. We started talking, and within a month, I was in love with him. Five months later, I told him- and found it was reciprocal. I haven't looked back since. This is the most fulfilling relationship I've been in, and it brings me immeasurable happiness. A few caveats- 1: If you're interested in an on-line relationship escalating to the physical plane, get pictures right off the bat, before you even start officially 'dating'. 2- Follow your instincs. If a person doesn't 'ring right', let that be a warning signal. Conversely, if everything checks out about them, you're pretty safe. 3- If you're going to commit with someone living 3,000 miles away (as I have), make very sure the emotions are real. You don't want to waste that much of your life on a lie.
StoryWell, Ive had a relationship/friendship with the same guy for teh past three years now. Anyway it started off as being a joke kind of thing being silly with lots of teasing. Eventually we talked for hours and hours everyday and i found myself just slowly falling in love. Looking back i know i was falling in love and yet too scared to admit to anyone or myself that i had fallen in love over the internet. mike, is i belive my soul mate. the distance makes in unbearably hard, but i am growing to apreciate the saying 'distance makes the heart grow fonder' He lives in NZ and i live in Australia, so the phone calls arent the cheapest, nor are the plane flights. But i am so happy to say that he is moving here in a couple of months. I can honetsly say that this relationship has saved me in so many ways, and i dont know what id do without it...just if you know that in your heart it is right, stick by it no matter what anyone says. s many people have told me to give up...But just the memory of his hands twined with mine, make the heartache alot more bearable.
StoryI have met some wonderful friends from online who will be friends for life - platonic situations. However, last winter, I met a man who I spent several weeks talking to, and who I eventually met in person and became "engaged" to. My first mistake was meeting this person just after my husband asked me for a divorce. "On The Rebound". I was looking for the consolation. I spent probably nine months in a relationship with this man, who as it turned out, not only lied to me about just about everything, but was also MARRIED! I am an intelligent person, and very independent. I never, never, never in my life thought I would be involved in such a situation, or ever meet anyone like this! This situation was very similar to those you hear about where a man will have a wife/partner and a full life in multiple locations! This man was here every weekend. He was never inaccessable to me. He was from a location approximately 700 miles away, so for good reason he was only here on weekends. He went through every single motion that a man planning to start a new life with a woman would....engagement ring, joint checking account, move planning, I even spoke with his family! I guess I was not too surprised when it came down to the weekend he was supposed to move here, and he had no good "reason" why he would not. After all, he had already admitted to lying about his employment, assets, and financial resources. Boy, was I dumb! I guess I am too trusting, I am a very caring person. Fortunately, I had no financial investment at risk in the relationship. And of course, when I discovered that his wife had no idea what he was up to, I felt like hell! I apologized, I felt so bad! And to make things worse... I did eventually remarry, to a man I had known for five years, and who has no computer knowledge. But this "ex" continues to dog me. No doubt that it has been a memorable experience, and when I allow myself to give it much thought, I wonder if anything he ever told me was true? Frankly, this turned into a very scary situation, and I truly believe that there were other "potential" scary situations out there on the internet, that I cut short because I felt uncomfortable. After this, if I had not remarried, I would sooner remain celebate than ever consider another online relationship.
StoryMany of the ads up on romance sites like one-and-only are actually inmates in prison having the ads put there for them by a buddy. They're to 'recruit' victims for outside guys to track, film, seduce then blackmail etc.
StoryI am really just starting a relationship online and it is wonderful. I am coming out of a bad marriage and the guy that I met seems very understanding and tells me that it is on my time frame how fast this goes. He seems to be a very nice and caring person and we just talked on the phone for the first time yesterday. Boy was I nervous but it went ok and he says that he will continue to email me and call me. I feel like I am living a dream. This is a man that is only about 2 hrs away and I would never have met unless I had logged on that day. I feel so lucky to have met him even if we only stay friends or this goes any further. It is great to be excited about having an email from him or to be working and when I answer the phone it is him on the other line. Yes I recommend it to everyone.
StoryWell I meet this guy through a personal ad I placed on one of the meet people web sights. And we talked on the phone and emailed each other. But when we meet in person it was awful. He was not at all what he described himself to be. I did not want to hurt is feelings so I went on ahead with the date. we went to the local mall to see a movie and we had got there to early. So he asked if it would be ok with me if he went to look for his mother a Christmas present, I said that was fine with me. We went in to JC Penny's and he was bent over the counter to look at some ugly jewelry for her and he started digging his butt. I don't mean just scratching it he was literally digging his butt. I was so embarrassed I walked away. I would suggest to people that are thinking about dating someone they meet online to send pictures to each other because people lie about what they look like. this guy was not attractive at all and had no class at all. I'm sorry but you just don't bend over and start digging your butt in a crowded mall. If it itches that bad go to the bathroom and do it in private!!!
StoryWell this is my story. I was 19 when I met my boyfriend. I met him this past summer and we have been together ever since. we have had a good strong relationship up to this point. we have been together for 5 months and it had been great. StoryI was chatting late one night and this guy pmed me. I hadn't been chatting all that long, so it kinda freaked me out, but the more we talked the more we had to talk about. he was at work, but he got back online when he got home and we talked all night. after a week, I finally asked for his phone number because if he turned out to be some sort of freak I didn't want him to have my #. anyway, to make a long story short, its been almost 4 months of pure happiness. we talk for hours every night. we made it through my breaks from school when I didn't have the internet, so were confident we can get through anything. StoryI had been talking to this guy online, and he was really nice. We got along really good that way, and he sounded really cute from his description. Anyway I met him, and he had the worst bad breath I have ever been around in my life. He acted like he didn't know he did and I didn't have the heart to tell him. I just made up an excuse to not see him again. StoryI should have known. Her cyber ad said "slightly overweight, cute, with nice personality". We talked then met. She was 250 pounds, looked like a guy, braces, coke bottle glasses, and a lazy eye. I was definitely disappointed. StoryI met this guy on a telephone hotline. We both had computers, the e-mails where great at first, then he slowed down, we had only seen each other 7 times but something, either the e-mails or maybe he was my soul mate,(he didn't think so) made it seem like we had known each other for years. I fell hard and fast, but he ran quicker. I'm not a dog and I am not destitute. I only asked for companionship nothing more. So be careful how much you reveal about your feelings. I really miss this guy StoryI am one of those who got burned by an internet relationship...not a very nice experience. Talked with the guy for a year and a half, 5 days a week, online and on phone, for 6 hours straight, swapped pictures, talked about family, etc. Expressed out love for each other (even though we were both married), planned on meeting on day down the road....then out of the blue, bye bye. We still talk to each other about 3xs a week - but it's not the same as when we first started talking. Advice to all out there - beware of your lonely heart - don't let a stranger take it over!
StoryPeople, Please do not do this on-line dating. I did and I am trying to warn you of the pain you very well could be facing. I thought he was my "SOUL MATE". Just like everyone does who starts an on line relationship. After a year, and meeting each other several times. I had to move to be with him, 2,000 miles away from friends and family. I thought it was going to be the happiest time of my life. But to make this long and heartbreaking story short. He was married, even thou we were living together. They were separated. But after he allowed me to give up my world, he then decided that he wanted to see if he could get his wife back. That did not seem to work. So he pleaded with me, told me he made a mistake, wanted me to forgive him. I already gave up everything I had so I thought Id try. But then I found out that he was having an on line romance with a woman in Florida. He told this woman that I was just a jealous old girl friend. That he loved her. This went on for awhile. But once again he told me that he made a mistake. Wanted me to give him another chance. So the fool that I am, and because I feel trapped, as I do not have the money now to just go home with my tail between my legs, I forgave him. And now he is having another on line affair with some woman named Leona. What he doesn't know is that I am planning my escape. To save enough money to leave and never ever ever will do this on-line romance again! Things are black and white when we are in pain, but there are shades of grey when we have something to gain. Power is Not being Loved, and Not letting it destroy you. A lesson I so painfully learned. People wake up, those stories of on line romances working out are very rare compared to the many people who have had their hearts torn out. People hide behind a screen, say all the things that you want to hear. But the real person can only be seen from day to day, one on one, in person. Trust me, People lie, just to get you where they want you. It's an ego boost, they do not care about the real person that you are. Don't let your fingers do the talking for you and your heart let you be deceived. Use your head in both areas. StoryI would like to share my internet dating story with you. And hopefully it would make women think twice before they give pertinent information out to strangers. About six months ago I met a man online and we became email buddies. It wasn't long before we began instant messaging each other on a daily basis. Our conversation would last until the wee hours in the morning. We would chat about everything under the sun. I felt very close and comfortable with him. I felt as though this was the man of dreams. In January, I suggested that we should exchange telephone numbers. At first he agreed to swap telephone and addresses. I quickly typed in my data and patiently waited for him to do the same... nothing. Nothing is what I got. He gave me this long story about being harassed in the past by a former girlfriend and that he didn't feel comfortable about giving out his UNLISTED telephone number. Nevertheless, he told me I should be patient with him until he's comfortable. After much arm twisting, I managed to get him to give me address--provided I not inquire of a telephone number ever again. Of course, I never agreed to this at all. But, there's more to this story. The latter part of January he proposed to me and foolishly I accepted. I started raising critical questions about who's going to move when? Should we not be planning for this move, etc. His response was to ignore my questions. This guy is a really pickle. I would appreciate any and all responses to my story. Please email your advice to the above address. I thank you in advance. StoryI met my perfect match in a chat room, we started talking in icq, and we were exactly what we were both looking for in a husband and wife. So now we're engaged, and we still have a while to go, but I have no doubts that this is the one God intends me to spend the rest of my life with. :) StoryI belong to this chatroom, and it's practically the only one I'm ever on. In this place, there were several guys who had asked if I wanted to online date them. For all of them, I said that I wasn't interested. To me, they were all just friends. Then one day, this guy comes in who I've seen a couple times before, but I don't really know him. We talk for a while, and after a few days I realize that I have a major crush on him. And during a game of Truth or Dare, he admits that he feels the same way for me. After a few more weeks, this one girl starts trying to break us apart by telling lies about him. She keeps changing her story, though, so I don't believe her. And it turns out that I'm right. Needless to say, I'm not exactly friends with her anymore. But a week later, five months ago, the guy and I had an online "wedding." Things have been great ever since.
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